Today the family played Settlers of Catan. It's a fun game, but for some strange reason, we have a hard time playing it and staying friends. Nathan was most frustrated with the outcome, and expressed his desire to throw the game away, "because it always makes people mad." Almost I started into a lecture about how the game cannot "make" you angry, but you choose to be angry. And yet, I knew that Nathan didn't need a lecture. He's heard that particular one many times.
I sat down on the sofa, and patted the seat next to me. My tall, gangly boy came and snuggled up next to me, and we just sat there together for awhile; my arm around his bony little body and his head nestled under my chin. I closed my eyes, and then it hit me - this boy is ten years old. In a year or maybe less, he may decide he is too old to be comforted by a hug from his mother. I held him closer, told him I loved him, and we talked of little silly things and laughed a little. And then fell quiet. It was so comfortable that I drifted off to sleep, and when I woke up, instead of a boy under my arm, there was a cat. I smiled.
Sometimes lectures just won't do. Sometimes all we need is a little love.
Did you by any chance LEARN from that silence? If so, I'm sure that Mr. Anson would have loved to have heard about it.
ReplyDeletePlus also my little brother (who is only six) decided already that he is too big for me to hug him in public. Not even when he falls off his bike and scrapes his knee up. Nope. Every once in a while he will allow me to hug him in the house, but only if nobody else can see. Dang.
This is a great post and one that you will cherish for years to come. I think that our sweetest memories come from those quiet unplanned and unexpected moments when we choose to do what the Savior would do versus the lecture circuit of the adversary. :) I love moments like this. :)
ReplyDeleteYup.
ReplyDeleteNathan, the man of few words. :)
ReplyDeleteI would just like to say that he screams like a girl when I hold him down and tickle his armpits. That is all.